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Life is short

This past weekend, my husband and I attended the memorial service for the father of his best friend’s wife. It was a reminder to both of us just how short and precious life is. Both Jim and I have dealt with the loss of family members taken too soon — his father and brother (both 54), and my sister (32) from cancer, my brother from a brain virus, all of our grandparents. 


When people say life is too short, it seems like a cliche. But in the blink of an eye, I turned 40. I remember my 21st birthday like it was yesterday! If you ask a person in the twilight of their life, they will mention a lot of the things listed above. They will also say that they wished they had walked away from unhealthy situations and relationships, enjoyed the little things in life, and to live for yourself and not other people.

How are you living your life right now? You can’t change the past but you have control over your future and what it holds. You will have obstacles — everyone will — but how you navigate those obstacles speaks to your strength, integrity and values. Those define who you are and your legacy.

Deep thoughts, but how are you living your life? Would your ten year old self be proud of who you have become?

Kpl 🙂

We learned life’s best lessons as a child…

…but somehow, as adults, we forget the simple lessons that life has taught us.  This image spoke to me today. Each and every one of us has our own inner power. Whether you’re an athlete, business owner, or trying to take control of your lifestyle, the simple fact is YOU have the power to be great. Everyone has the power to do great things. The willingness to “just do it” is what separates the people who wish they could and those who actually are doing it.

What is holding you back? Are you holding yourself back? Are other people and negative influences around you holding you back? Why aren’t you doing something you want to do?  “Where there is a will there is a way. Great accomplishments can happen with hard work, personal drive, a goal and a dream.” Kpl 🙂 

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It is girl scout cookie time, and if you are anything like me, it is so hard to say no to the angelic faces selling you the cookies. It is even harder to resist the cookies themselves! 

  
This is one of my favorite protein shake recipes and it tastes just like a thin mint girl scout cookie! I listed the organic ingredient option since I am an organic buff but you may certainly substitute for standard product.

Remember we are 12 weeks away from bikini season! Want to get in shape? Join one of my workout challenge groups and I’ll help you get there. Click on the healthy life tab!

Kpl 🙂

What makes you happy!?!

  
For Pharrell, we know that ‘humming along’ makes him ‘happy.’ But what makes you happy?

I was spending so much time focusing on making other people happy that I have forgotten what makes my heart sing. As a result, I started becoming incredibly stressed out, irritable and unhappy. I love my bridal couples and wedding vendor friends, don’t get me wrong — but besides them, I didn’t have any other outlets besides my husband and my cat.

Last year, I connected with my friend Amy, and she and I talked about how I used to swim competitively during high school and college. I hated looking at myself in the mirror because I had picked up more than 70 pounds since college and I felt so sluggish. She told me that you make time for priorities, and 30 minutes a day could easily become a priority. That didn’t sound too hard, but I was concerned about my lupus putting up a fight. (That’s largely where the weight came from — the drugs that saved my life.) She encouraged me to try anyway, and I started doing Les Mills Combat and embarked on a healthy eating routine. One year later, I am now 40 pounds healthier, have a great virtual support network, and have a passion for eating clean and organic. 
Before opening the wedding planning business, I used to perform and work on the production team for community theater. I sang as a cantor at our church, and in the past I had sung the national anthem at the Xavier Men’s Basketball homecoming game, the Buffalo Sabres, the Toledo Mudhens and the Cincinnati Mighty Ducks. I wanted to have a career in musical theater at one point. So what happened? Why did this passion leave my life? Music and theater had always been such a great creative outlet for me.

The lessons I learned this past year? Simple — in order to take care of others you need to take care of yourself.

(1) You make time for things that are priorities. If you really want to make a commitment to do something you will find the time. There are 24 hours in a day — eight are spent sleeping, ten are spent working, two are spent eating — what will you do with the remaining four? How will you spend your 32 hours of your ‘awake time’ on your days off? That is up to you!

(2) Set boundaries. If you don’t someone else will for you. Saying ‘no’ isn’t a bad word, it is simply a decline.

(3) Make a date with yourself each day. Whether it be a 30 minute workout, meditation, journaling, bubble bath, a walk in the park, cooking to music — it doesn’t matter. Make a date with yourself each day. I carve out ‘Kathy time,’ which is time for me. I spend it alone doing something to make my body or spirit feel better. It is a great opportunity to recharge your battery and regroup to tackle the rest of life’s stressors the rest of the day!

What about my singing and performing bug that was inadvertently squashed? Jim and I recently rejoined our church, and I asked the office manager to tell the music director that I was interested in cantoring again. Her email back said ‘he’ll be so happy to hear you’re back, we need good cantors!’ It’s a start, right? I also hear there will be auditions for a show at the Sharonville Cultural Arts Center soon that will require an Atlanta accent! 🙂

Don’t worry … Be happy now! (Ooo… ooo, ooo, ooo, Ooo, ooo, ooo, ooo, Ooo, ooo, ooo, ooo….don’t worry…are you humming along?)

Kpl

Forge your own path (and don’t compare yourself to others!)

  

 One of my worst flaws is that I constantly compare myself to others. That person is skinnier than me, that person has a bigger house than me, this person is more successful than me…sound familiar? We all have done it at some point.

I have a friend who is traveling all over the world DJ-ing on cruise ships, and she has the most amazing Instagram. Another friend of mine from college is producing movies for Hallmark channel, and I just streamed one of her movies on my Time Warner app this evening. Yet another person I went to high school with has been on the cover of Fortune magazine and is a mentor on Shark Tank this season. What have I done? I have planned weddings for people in Cincinnati. I’m not famous, I don’t live in a big city, and I am certainly not rolling in the dough. I have always set my standards higher because that’s just me. I don’t want to be ordinary. When I start comparing myself to these people, however, I immediately feel like I’ve failed.

When I start having this line of thinking, I quickly remind myself of these four things. 

(1) You are special and unique, and you have been blessed with your own talents and life journey. Your path is not the same. You have qualities that no one else has. The path life has taken you on has made you into the person you are today. Your life, talents and experiences likely inspire more people than you realize. I was diagnosed with lupus and recovering from that that set me back a few years on growing my business. Right when my business was taking off, my husband and I moved to Cleveland for two years where I literally had to start over from scratch. We eventually moved to Cincinnati and it took a few years back to get where I was when we left. Some people may see these as obstacles, but they were learning experiences and I am a stronger person because of them.

(2) You don’t know what is going on behind the front door. You see what that person wants you to see, or shows you — which is likely 10% of the story. You see the achievements, the milestones, the Facebook posts and the money. What you don’t see is the years of struggle, failures, struggling marriages and medical issues. That person’s health may be failing, or their marriage might be on the rocks. You aren’t comparing yourself to their struggles though. 

(3) They have problems and struggles too. Nobody is perfect. We all have crosses to carry. If we didn’t we wouldn’t be human!

(4) They might think you’re perfect! Think about the social media posts you post. Do you post when your checking account overdraws, when you’ve gained 20 pounds, or lost out on booking that big client? Of course not! You post the good things, like winning an award, the photos from the great event you planner, or when you lost 40 pounds. In reading the 10% of what is actually going on in your life, others may think your life is perfect!

  
I think of a line from the movie “The Sixth Sense,” — people see what they want to see. When you compare yourself to others that is exactly what you are doing. Compare yourself to who you were yesterday to who you are today and who you want to be tomorrow. That is the healthiest way to compare yourself and continue to grow!

kpl 🙂

#WaterWednesday the benefits of lemon water

  

Lemon water is the start of my daily health routine. I squeeze the juice of one lemon into 20 ounces of water when I first wake up. (Then I rinse my mouth out to protect the enamel on my teeth.) I initially started it because my husband was doing it, and then I read an interview given by Christie Brinkley saying that she does it every day. My initial thought –if I want to look like her when I am 61, this must be the koolaid to get there!

In general — you should be drinking half of your weight in ounces of water each day. You can add lemon juice to 20 ounces of that first thing in the morning or right before a meal!

Then I started doing some research about the benefits of lemon water and it is astounding what this simple daily detox can do for your body!

Great source of Vitamin C

Lemon juice provides 112 mg of vitamin C which, according to Dr Axe, is 187% of your daily requirement of Vitamin C — that is more than orange juice — without excessive carbs. (It actually has 3 grams of protein! ) Vitamin C protects your body from colds and strengthens your immune system.

Potassium, magnesium, Vitamin B6, copper and folate, thiamin, Vitamin E

Lemon juice is also a great source of these nutrients. Breakdown of nutrients:

303 milligrams potassium (9 percent DV)

31.7 micrograms folate (8 percent DV)

0.1 milligrams vitamin B6 (6 percent DV)

0.1 milligrams thiamin (5 percent DV)

0.1 milligrams copper (4 percent DV)

14.6 milligrams magnesium (4 percent DV)

0.4 milligrams vitamin E (2 percent DV)

Healthy Detox

Lemon juice helps the liver produce more bile, which causes your digestive system to stay more balanced. It also stabilizes insulin, helps you to better absorb nutrients, reduces bloating, and flushes out toxins. (It is a mild diuretic, but think of all the toxins you flush out by urinating more!)

Rejuvenates the skin 

This is the part that must have benefitted Christie Brinkley’s supermodel skin well into her 60s! Antioxidants in lemons fight damage from free radicals, helps your body produce collagen (which in turn fights fine lines and wrinkles). Recent studies have also shown the using Vitamin C serums on your face and regular consumption of Vitamin C produced better looking skin and less wrinkles.

Suppresses the appetite

A nice side effect — lemon water suppresses your appetite. That’s why I drink a glass of lemon water in the morning and one before dinner.

Average lemon at the grocery store costs 50 cents, or you can buy them in bulk at Costco or Sams. 

Does it work? This is a sweatie selfie I took last week of my 40 year old self after my workout. I think it is working!! 🙂

  
  
Kpl 🙂

Sources cited: DrAxe.com